10 Years

10 years married...wow! 

I must be honest...years prior to meeting my husband, back in my young single days, I used to fear drowning and divorce. 

By the time I had decided to marry my now husband, I had learned that you don't marry someone you love and cross your fingers for good luck. Now that I'm an experienced woman (dang, sounds so grown up!), I'll give you a few of my life lessons.

Just wanted to make a quick post on how ecstatic I am to celebrate such an awesome occasion! I even made us t-shirts that I'll post below. My husband was "thrilled" to be matchy-matchy with me! ha ha...I kept the shirts a secret until this morning when I handed him his shirt!

So after 10 years of marriage, here are just a couple of my life/marriage tips for the unmarried:

1. Don't marry someone just because you love him/her. You could love an idiot, but an idiot will not show you agape love, respect and responsibility, and you and your family will need all three.

2. Marry a grown up. This does not mean find a boring piece of "dry toast" you don't have fun with. This means, do not say yes to someone who is broken emotionally, mentally, or can't hold on to a job for whatever "reason." You can't fix anyone. That's up to them. Your unconditional love won't do crap for them because they have to want it for themselves, regardless if you're there or not. You can't be someone's savior. Jesus Christ already did that, so don't even try. Marry someone that is ready to go = responsible for themselves.

3. Build your foundation on God. As much as many don't want to acknowledge the higher power & creator that is God Almighty, it's just truth. Because even if you don't feel like doing a favor or sacrificing another half of your time to help out your spouse because YOU are busy, tired or inconvenienced in some way, you might do it to please God. This will make your spouse smile and feel loved. You need to work to be this way throughout your marriage journey, AND your spouse needs to do this. This makes you & your spouse be on the same team: God's team. It's not always easily done, but with practice and God as your coach, what do you have to fear? By the time I got married, the immature fear of divorce was nowhere in sight because I was marrying a man who pursued Christ. Pursue HIM together. Your marriage goal is to help each other get to heaven 🙂 We're working on it...

Here's to another 10 years and more!